This is the first listserv, that I have joined. I have 4 boys and a girl.
Two Boys are now in Elementary, one in preschool. I am finding out that
the old fashioned approach to raising children as I was raised is not the
same kind of approach the schools use. ( I think that is unfortunate, I am
well pleased with my upbringing ) My children are well behaved for their
ages when I am around and I really enjoy them. However, they seem to be
much more slack at school where there is much less fear of the consequences
of their actions.
I remember my boyhood and I did similar things and sometimes forgot about
the rules my parents laid down when I was in a large group setting or with
peers. However; When I was in school, there was allways the thought of the
paddle if one got too far out of line like there was also at home. So I
did not have to be reminded too many times before I did what was asked of
me. I remember thinking a lot of times about doing something and then not
doing it simply because of the consequences.
Those things which I should'nt have done, I could get away with now, but I
am not interested in doing them anymore. I have learned that they are wrong
and
my mind comprehends why. This just seems to me to be a pattern of normal
childhood.
It seems at school my boys are a lot slower to comprehend "dont" from their
teachers then I did at their age. Yet, I most certainly have no complaints
at home. ( They are not perfect, but I am pleased with their maturity for
their ages ) It is clear that even though I am instructing my children at
home, society has a different lesson for them then I want them to learn.
And they almost live two different lives, only more extreme then when I was
a young boy.
Any comments?